Doing the Butt: How to Have Pleasurable Anal Sex
Sequestered away in an AirBnb on vacation, my love and I, got to exploring. Our sex was always explosive, but for the first time ever, I enjoyed some real “booty action”. Up until that trip, my experience with anal sex was extremely limited. I tried it a couple of times, strictly at the request of a lover. It hurt like hell. It also made me feel dirty. No pun intended. Physically, it just didn’t feel good and I surmised that it just wasn’t not my thing. Until, one day, I went away with my lover. We were lying in bed when a passionate foreplay session began. Our tongues were intertwined and we took turns slowly sucking on each other’s bottom lip. Then, the kisses travelled down to my nether region. He started to finger me and I was sopping wet. Before I had fully processed what was gong on, he had already slid his dick in my ass. I was ok with it.
Unlike the times before, this time didn’t hurt. He was smooth with his lubrication application and ultimately, I ended up genuinely and thoroughly enjoying our experience.
Outside of staying safe, here are a few tips to get the most out of your anal sex experience:
Relax
It doesn’t hurt to be turned on. Forcing yourself to do something that you aren’t very into will only make you tense and create a literal boundary to back door entry. If you trust your partner and are into him, then, the first thing to do is to relax and trust that you are headed for a good time.
Slow and steady
When you are first trying anal, you should absolutely start off slow and with just a little. There is no need to take on an entire fully erect penis your first time. Try taking it inch by inch, centimenter by centimeter. Each time make sure you are comfortable before you progress further. You also might need a few sessions, before you are “fully loaded”. Continue to be affectionate as you move further along.
Lube
Don’t be stingy with it. It is absolutely pertinent to the experience. It will make it a lot more comfortable and will reduce any painful friction or tearing that comes from not being fully lubricated.
Exclusivity
Once you go the back door route, you can’t come around the front. You run the risk of introducing all kinds of bacteria to your vagina (and/or mouth), so unless you are washing the penis off in between each area, or using a brand new condom, it’s best to stick to one or the other.
Multitask
I love that my lover continued to play with my clit. This kept me relaxed and helped me get off which in turned increased lubrication. You can use a vibrator or your hands, but definitely try to make it a holistic experience for deeper satisfaction.
Switch it Up
You are not restricted to simply do doggystyle during anal sex. The receiver can sit in the lap of the giver. You can spoon or do reverse cowgirl. You can even do missionary style. Get creative and figure out what works for you. Just know that you have options to mix it up.
Don’t Worry, You Won’t Take a Crap
There is definitely this weird feeling like you might crap on yourself. It comes from being stimulated in a brand new area. Plus, the butt has all kinds of nerves back there and it might take a minute for it to figure out what’s actually going on. Be assured, you won’t ruin the moment, it’s just just a passing feeling.
Anal sex definitely isn’t for everyone. However, with the right partner, it can be a way to mix things up in the bedroom and take a relationship to new pleasurable heights. Stay Naughty!
